My Autistic Son and his Brother

I have an autistic son who just turned 4 years old and he is the love of my life. Well, I have three loves of my life including my husband, my 4 year old, and my 1 year old. There are challenges to raising a child with Autism, but you learn that your love is strong and you want to protect him more from the chaos of life.

When my Autistic son was about three years old, I found out I was pregnant with my second child. It was like my first born knew that his brother was being added to our family because he was so upset at me. He would touch my stomach and have tantrums. He would push me in my stomach and be so angry at me. Although he is non-verbal, his behavior towards me changed significantly. There was so much anger towards me from my 3 year old, it made me so sad.

However, 13 months later, with the addition to our family, my Autistic son and his brother have a love-hate relationship, and it is the most hilarious thing that I have ever seen.

My Autistic son has a problem with sharing, and the baby is trying to explore his environment. Just imagine seeing a 4 year old and a 13 month old have a disagreement, and get into a physical altercation. The 13 month old baby is getting physically aggressive with my Autistic son, who is a gentle giant and rarely responds with aggression. Sometimes they have their moments when I have to intervene, but then there are times when I allow them to settle their own problems.

Recently, the four year old, who has some deficits in social norms, and his role as a big brother, has been trying to keep the 13 month old safe from…everything, since 1 year olds are little terrorists who are desperate to ┬ádiscover their environment. My Autistic son grabs his hand and tries to lead him to better and safer surroundings, but 1 year olds are all about learning new things and getting into trouble.

It’s safe to say that the 1 year old doesn’t give a fly shyt about being safe and is up for creating as much chaos around our home as possible, but my four year old, who has his own struggles, tries to grab his brother’s hand and lead him back to mommy and daddy… well mostly daddy.

Gosh, these kiddos worry me with their personal interactions, but sometimes you must sit back and allow them to develop their own type of relationship.

Although our baby has Autism, we treat him like any child who doesn’t have any developmental issues. We allow him to explore his relationship with his brother, and it has been a little hectic at times. But he is learning that his baby brother is a hot mess, curious, and energetic. It is so hilarious because me and the hubby ensure that our two boys are interacting with each other normally in order to build a bond between the two, but sometimes the 13 month old wants to bite and hit his older brother, who runs to me crying because he won’t dare hurt his baby brother.

I love these babies!


Still Voting for Hillary?

Hillary lied! She lied to the American people about her damn email server. Hillary assured America that she did not send confidential or top secret emails through her private server. FBI’s director, James Comey, made it clear that she sent multiple emails that were “top secret”, and then went so far as to claim that she “may have” been hacked in the process of using this email server. This is damaging news to the Clinton campaign, no doubt.

Ok, here is the tea! Director Comey said “no charges are appropriate,” which also means that she is not a criminal, just someone who said “f@*k the rules, I’m a Clinton.”If she were a regular employee at a regular job, she would have been wrote up or recieved a verbal reprimand…or maybe even terminated from her position.

I believe that Hillary lied her azz off regarding the email server, and they proved this information after spending millions of tax payer dollars. Am I surprised? Hell knaw! Am I still voting for Hillary? Hell Yes!

At this point in the election process, when there are two candidates full of bull shyt, you have to choose the lesser evil. Hillary lied and politicians often tell the public lies, especially during an election cycle. But there is nothing that Hillary can do at this point to make me vote for Donald Trump. The man is an orange, stubby little character who is often whining about how the media treats him. Bill Maher described him so elegantly, calling him a #whineylittlebitch.

It seems that every speech Donald Trump blesses us with, he sounds like a raving lunatic verging on senility. Just today, he was making a speech and had to stop in the middle of the speech to acknowledge an insect flying by, and proceeded to calling the insect Hilary Clinton. Take a look and have a good laugh.


When you just don’t give a f#ck!

frankly-my-dear-i-don-t-give-a-damn-8I think there comes a time in your life where you could care less about bull shyt. The small things no longer matter and you learn to say “I don’t give a flying fck about what anyone says.” You start to let things just roll off your back and move on. I think its a significant stepping stone to get to that place where you are no longer easily offended because at the end of the day you no longer care about other people’s bull shit.People with attitudes…that’s their problem. People with complaints…that’s their problem. People got a problem with you… fck em, that’s their damn problem too. Not mine! Oh well! No┬ásignificant reaction from me necessary.

Meme of the Day!


Too Soon Maybe?

Beyonce’s Lemonade Stand

vanilla-lemonade-sl-xI have to admit that I was one of the millions of Beyonce fans to tune in to the HBO event that was Lemonade, featuring our beloved Beyonce. This is where the Bey Hive may come after me with their vile comments and misunderstanding of my personal opinion. I actually thought the documentary or movie…whatever you want to call it, was quite boring and depressing. But this doesn’t mean that I don’t appreciate the talent behind the work of art that she has created here. There has been a shift in the image that is Beyonce in the last couple of years. She has become quite elusive and mysterious, which has piqued the interest of people world-wide. We try to grasp or define the full persona of this world wide super star and she continues to change, to evolve with her art. So no matter if I liked the latest music, I continue to respect and admire that she is a woman who is continuously hungry for world wide domination.

Instead of going in to whether her music is about her marriage or not, I wanted to linger on the fact that there was such a strong black presence in the video, that I immediately wanted to scream YES! til I strained my vocal cords, because the women of color were depicted as beautiful, sexy, and strong. I appreciated these depictions of our women, as sometimes we are viewed in such a negative light in the media. Beyonce aggressively revealed love and anger throughout the video, something that all women have experienced and are experiencing throughout life.

If we take anything from the Lemonade stand, we should take Beyonce’s alleged heart ache and reconciliation, and think about our own journey of love, loss, anger, and reconcile. And although I view recording artists as a tool for entertainment, there is still something to be learned here at the lemonade stand. Women can learn that no matter your success in life, continue to strive for world domination, never be content, and always understand that there is always more to be done.

Although I don’t believe that my personal opinion is important and will be changed regarding the music, I have decided to support such a legendary artist by purchasing her latest album. Why? Because I am a supporter of women who attempt to exceed the boundaries of reality and dominate the conversation regarding social issues permeating in our society.

The next consideration for the Lemonade stand is whether it should be nominated for an Emmy? Before you think that it shouldn’t, we must first consider the effect that Lemonade has had on our society, and even the world. If we forget about some of the lyrics that may offend some, she has created an evolution in visual arts that no other artist has embarked upon, or has been as successful on such a massive scale. Personally, the artistic prowess of this piece deserves at least a consideration, if not the award itself. #lemonade #Beyonce